Am I In Love With You? – Here’s The Answer

What’s the difference between “I am in love with you” and “musement”? Can merely mumble a little? Several decades back, while I was on holiday in England and Scotland, I noticed one very strange thing. Local people were utterly in love with everybody else.
There were countless little England & Scotland beauties to be seen everywhere: It wasn’t just the architecture, but the way they treated those who didn’t look like “local” enough. And there was something so comforting about that. Something that made you feel safe.
But today, after lots of travels around the world, I think I know what it’s all about: And not only do I think I know what it’s about, I know most people who have done it, and I’ve had friends do it too. But the difference is this. The locals had a profound love for everybody – local and otherwise. Which is more than can be said for most tourists!
When I was young, I had no idea what love was. I’d never heard anybody talk about it: One of my favorite TV shows was a British comedy series called “Faking It”, and in one episode the lead character played by somebody entirely different from me, talked about how he was in love with a girl he had never met in person. And you know what? His actions, if you follow them closely, will ultimately result in his falling in love with a total stranger!
He’d barely touched her, had she been real, he’d have moved at the speed of light: I’m paraphrasing, of course, but that’s the point. He wasn’t a physical push-pull. She was a mental one. This guy was falling in love, without even trying to move forward with it; he was falling head over heels in love, with the woman he thought would be his perfect match.
Now I know this guy is one of my very best friends: But as far as I’m concerned, I am in no way ashamed of loving him. What I am ashamed of is allowing myself to get stuck in the rut of thinking that all love is sexual.
Love is not sex. Period. Think about it for a moment, how long has love been about lust, or lust for your material things? How long has it truly been about friendship? It’s always been the latter.
Friendship encompasses so much more than sexual interest: It’s about respecting each other and being true to ourselves, most of the time. It’s about sharing everything in life with our friends. It’s also about giving and taking. Sure, sex comes into play sometimes, but let’s be honest, that’s only because we’re not getting the kind of love and respect that we deserve. I’ve been in relationships where we share everything, yet still end up falling short of expectations when it comes to love; this is absolutely not the case.
So if you’re asking yourself “Am I in Love with You?” You will know the answer once you experience it. When you feel it, you will know without a doubt that you are indeed “in love”; and it will all make so much more sense. I wish you much happiness in all of your relationships and hope you find true happiness.